So this brings us to sanction seven of the course.
Now I'm not sure how you found last section section sex relationship and people principles.
Some people might have found that a little bit more provocative and challenging than others to be honest
with you.
I love communicating online that I could communicate there all day but if you appreciate for some people
is going to be brand new and may seem a little bit intimidating.
Some of the ideas anyway but it really is going to require us to to really push ourselves and drive
ourselves to this depth in our relationships if we genuinely do want to make the impact that we claim
we want to make.
Now here's the thing.
If we cast their minds back right to the start of Section 1 of the course I think one of the first ideas
was that I shared with you we can work with our clients to set the most grandiose set of goals in the
world.
But if our clients have subscribed to a set of limiting destructive beliefs or succumb to a set of habitually
unhelpful thinking patterns then it doesn't really matter what the goals are that we work with our clients
to accomplish.
It's going to be the thought patterns and their limiting beliefs that end up sabotaging their best intentions
so that we work with all the stuff that we've worked through first and foremost and as long as we get
the foundations in a relationship right then and only then are we going to be ready for what we're about
to talk about now.
The goal setting process and believe it or not this is actually probably going to be one of the lightest
sections of the course.
At the videos of follow.
We're going to share with you on a number of resources that we've already created.
There's just simply going to require you to work through yourself first and foremost so that you can
appreciate them and then in turn feel free to download them print them off and share them with your
clients to aid and assist them through the same goal setting process.
A person with a vision for their future is doomed to perpetuate the habits of their present and the
outcomes of their past.
Many people don't set goals and there's an old saying was a he who fails to plan plans to fail or something
like that.
So goal setting is pretty much what life coaching is all about.
Only after we've overcome any limiting beliefs destructive thought patterns fears insecurities and self-doubt
and all that kind of stuff which is obviously a piece of cake.
I know you'll be thinking that by now anyway.
So what I want to introduce you to in this video very very simplistically the four different levels
and types of goal that there are no I'm probably not teaching you anything new here I just want to pool
together many of the ideas that I've already shared through the course we've spent quite a bit of time
talking about vision.
A person with a vision for their future stands a risk of go round and round in circles for the rest
of their life and remaining where they are at.
So what I'm going to suggest is that when a person comes to you for life coaching they may not be aware
what the life coaching process is all about and most certainly is not conventional therapy.
I'm sure you are no fully appreciative of this.
So what I'm going to suggest is that as life coaches it is not going to be congruent off us to commit
to working with clients who do not already have goals or our goal or some form of vision for the future.
Why.
Because you cannot coach someone towards goals that they don't have.
All right.
If a person doesn't have goals well you can't coach them.
If a person doesn't have vision we for a better brighter future you can't help them to overcome anything
right.
Coaching is this progressive helping process.
So if we look at life kind of like a journey it comes with a starting point.
We have a gap in between and then we've got a final destination Alexx.
I like this idea of start with the end in mind all right.
It's important in life that we kind of get an idea or some sort of vision a compelling notion of what
it is that we actually really want to stand for in life what we want to have accomplished by the time
we crooked when we start thinking like this that it helps us to really make wiser and more well-informed
decisions about the things that we invest our time energies and efforts into today.
When a person doesn't have a vision for their future they can end up getting sidetracked and drawn into
projects over here and goes over here and when we don't have a vision for our own lives we can end up
getting drawn into playing a part in helping someone else to fulfill theirs and I'm not even saying
that this is gonna be a bad thing but um but what I am saying is of clients coming to you for college
and it's most likely because they do have some goals some vision some dreams some ambitions that they
actually want to accomplish for themselves.
All right.
So through this section we're going to unpack a few means through which we can actually work with our
clients to help them get clear on a long term vision for the future.
And this pretty much becomes the primary motivating force that can drive them and keep them enthused
to work through and continue to pursue and achieve and ascertain their short term goals and medium term
goals on the long term goals.
Now what I've done here I've not just put a whole load of colored dots on the board for no reason.
Oh no.
That would have been sensors off me instead.
What I wanted to do was use these colored bubbles just to represent force and the quantity of our long
term medium term and short term goals should kind of be like All right no I'm not saying that you should
only have four long term goals in your life.
But what I am saying is that your eyes Your eyes your eyes you look closer towards your long term vision.
The number of long term goals that you have will not be as many as what your medium term goals are.
And short term goals will kind of just be like your To Do list.
I don't know about you but I've got a to do list that is literally a mile long.
Will I ever get through it.
I'm not sure.
So I want to share with you just an example here first and foremost on how it is if we don't get our
goals in order and understand the goals and process we can end up really selling ourselves short.
No.
I worked with a lady quite a number of years ago I don't work with ladies anymore then I just work with
guys which is which is a choice that I made a few years ago and this lady had reached around the age
of 40 and she'd just become so disheartened and disenfranchised with life no she'd been operating as
a see your father things like a fabric company or something like this and professionally she'd done
very very well shut out a lovely house BMW car with letters leather seats and a C.D. player all that
kind of stuff and well she'd done well on a professional level in life.
She felt like she'd failed miserably.
She'd always had a dream or a goal of getting married someday and having two point four children but
because she got so immersed in the business world and she focused much of our short term time and efforts
and energies into work and progressing professionally and she missed a few opportunities to connect
with Mr. Wright which obviously therefore cost her one off the long term goals that she'd hoped for.
No.
When I asked her about what her goals were many years ago she said well she always wanted to be a successful
businesswoman so she'd take that box.
She also said she wanted to be financially free so she'd take that box.
She always said that she wanted to be the proud owner of a brand new BMW car with leather seats in a
C.D. player and she'd take that box.
But the one box that she wasn't able to take was the one that she had to compromise.
Opportunity cost compromise to get all of the other three boxes text.
If that makes sense.
So is what I'm saying here is that when it comes to goal setting in order for us to be effective in
life we've got to weigh up our every short term goal in alignment with our medium term goals and our
long term goals and ultimately a long term vision.
So see when I decide what to invest my time into today I have some options and I've got all these options
here in green.
All right I'm going to look at this option right here and I'm going to say right.
Is this going to be a worthwhile investment of my time today.
Yes or no.
Well how do I know.
Well I've got to look at what my my of awesome my medium term goals are first and foremost to see if
I was to say right okay.
And today I am thinking about doing some filming creating a few videos and perhaps completing a new
online training course something like this.
Well the questions I want to be thinking and asking myself are right okay.
For what purpose.
This is where the hierarchy of ideas comes back into play again.
So I started what purpose thing myself.
So what's my medium term goal.
What medium term goal is to continue to add value into the ecology curriculum.
All right.
As a as a teacher as a member of the faculty and what I also want to accomplish medium term goal is
to reach a place of relative financial security as myself and Karen are fast approaching adopting children
cool.
So if I invest time into creating this video based course today and it helps generate a little bit of
money then it helps us get closer to where we want to be the long term goal.
Is this two point four children having a family at some point in the future.
Yes I would love nothing more than to be a granddad as well.
All right so as I look through can I.
Is it a good investment of my time today creating digital resources and training courses.
Well yeah it takes more medium term goals books and also helps me get closer to my long term goals and
what's my personal vision.
My personal vision is just to be remembered as the kind of person who made a positive difference in
the world.
Whatever that looks like we'll unpack this in a few videos time.
So as I evaluate my short term goals in and through a medium term goals and long term goals I can see
that me invest in time to create courses or more videos today.
Well this certainly helps me to get closer to my long term vision.
So the answer is yes.
This becomes a good investment of time.
All right.
No and this is all about becoming more effective in life which is what.
As life coaches we want to help our clients to become more effective in the decision making process
so that they can look at all their short term goals and in fairness I don't know too many people who
ever have a problem and in defining a whole lot of short term goals that they have is more than medium
term goals and long term goals that people struggle with.
So what what.
One of the first things that we want to be really working with our clients to help them do is get an
overriding vision and all of the main aspects and areas of their life so they can establish for themselves
visions or at least long term goals not just professionally but also in their relationships financially
perhaps in their social circles.
We might want to also get them looking at the degree of contribution they want to make back into the
world.
And we also want them to get a vision for who they can become i.e. personal growth on their own.
Andrew in Paris and so am I.
I'm hoping that this is giving you a bit of an insight into where we're going through the rest of this
section and then the next video I'm going to start introducing you to some of the tools and the exercises
that we can share with our clients to help them to start breaking down and defining what their long
term medium term and short term goals are for themselves.